Dear Readers, What is the one positive word you remember that impacted your life forever? This past week, my life has been flooded with positive words. Words like, “great, amazing, glad, awesome, fabulous, like, missed you, you’re back!” They fill my cup in so many ways and make me happy. I am complete without them, but I am overflowing with them. After the 5th time of being told “We’re glad you’re feeling better! So glad you’re back!” I started to ask myself if I was filling other people’s cup the same way. Words are like coffee: without a good cup, it’s not a good day. (For me, anyway.) The positive words can wake you and make you feel alive.
A famous mother to the world once said: “Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless.” Words of grace and style. Words that caress someone else’s heart. Someone much more eloquent than I’ll ever be wrote, “Raise your words, not your voice. It is rain that grows flowers, not thunder.”
Happiness comes in small little packages called positive words. In my ever ending adventures with teaching little minds and hearts to grow, I witness the power of a well-chosen word. I have watched children bloom and grow and flourish with them. Kids who are nagged and bullied and picked on, I have seen wilt and fade and finally give up. Classes who were “uncontrollable” and “terrible” classes walked into my room and performed well. They gave their 100% and more. They listened and paid attention. They memorized whole plays and solo songs and performed them for an audience of hundreds, even though they were shaking with stage fright. Why? Because the minute they did what I asked, I told them they were the “good” class. I told them they were talented and capable of great things. They believed in themselves because I believed in them.
Even animals understand them. The little (or should I say big?) canine star of my post If Dogs Had Facebook, What Would They Say? [Lifestyle], Holly knows when I’m being the Grinch. She heads on out of the way. People do the same!
I can push people away with my words, or I can bring them closer. Which will I do?
There is an event that I try not to remember often and will one day forget it ever happened. (I just believe in dwelling on the positive.) I remember pulling up in my car to my house and hearing Banshee screaming coming from the house across the street. Shocked into motionless, I stood there. Someone had lost a loved years previously, and the anger of the event and everything that came after it was still being unleashed. But who was it being unleashed on? The person CLOSEST to the lost loved one.
Unable to take it any longer, the teenager in the house came running out of it. The screamer then accused that kid of “running away.” But were they really running away, or were they running from the hurt and pain of screaming, appalling, unspeakable words? I will never forget the words that I heard next from the person at who these screaming words were directed. “They are pushing me away.”
I have been called a “little turd” by a previous boss. Obviously not appropriate or business professional. But then, I have been told I have “impressive credentials” by another. Who do you think earned my respect? Who do you think I gave 1000% to? It was all in the POWER of two little words. One gave me the idea that I was being belittled, trivialized, and treated like a child. The other words gave me an idea of expecting me to perform well and efficiently.
Remember in Maleficent when little toddler Aurora speaks and melts Maleficent’s cold heart with her word? “Hello!” Maleficent answered, “Go away. Go, Go, away. I don’t like children.” In answer, Aurora reached out and wrapped her arms around Malificent. In another scene, Aurora says again, unafraid, “I know who you are. You’re my fairy godmother!”
Malicifent eventually tells a sleeping Aurora, “I will not ask your forgiveness because what I have done to you is unforgivable. I was so lost in hatred and revenge. Sweet Aurora, you stole what was left of my heart. And now I have lost you forever. I swear, no harm will come to you as long as I live. And not a day shall pass that I don’t miss your smile.”
Remember that scene in the movie?
I have learned that I had to change some of my words. After thinking about it, I am actually more of a negative person that I thought. Some of my negativity tends to form from some shyness and my introvert-ness. I realized that in my shyness, I am so wrapped up in worrying myself that I completely forget how the other person feels. A few changes had to be made in my end!!
How I started to think in the positive
- Changing my words: “I don’t like to…” “I do like… “STOP!” to… “I like that you are ___________, now please do __________ correctly. “I hate….” to finding something “I like…”
- Changing the way I thought about myself to discovering what I loved about myself
- Criticism to finding the positive in what I was hearing
- Tactfully and graciously stating when I did need to give criticism
- Not constantly teaching others about the “right” way of doing things but instead being a genuine, caring, listening friend
- Getting to know others before I made automatic assumptions about them
- Leaving fault-finding out the door! We are not all perfect! Least of all, me.
- No name calling–changing “You are _______” to “It bothered me when you did _____”
- Giving genuine compliments, not flattery
- Smiling often. Smiling simulates positivity to our brain. It gives us the pleasure that chocolate gives us, according to Forbes Magazine!
- Speaking in a kind voice (not a begging or babyish voice, but a kind one)
- Greeting others with “Hello! Good morning! How are you? How is your day?” instead of shyness and quiet
- Thinking about how other people will feel if I say what I am fixing to say to them (My grandmother used to say, Think before you speak!)
What positive words can you say about yourself?
- I love who I am.
- I believe in me.
- I am successful!
- I am capable.
- I am able.
- I will make it.
- I am a fighter, but I am also a winner as well!
- I am loved.
- I am ___________________ (fill-in-the-blank)
Dear Readers, you are all of these things. Thank you for all of your support and love! As always, leave a comment and I will link to your blog in my upcoming post.
What does the power of positive words mean to you? How do they impact you? How did you feel in the blank about yourself?
Make positivity in style!!
Many happy positive words to you!